Sunday, February 13, 2011

Hillary's Book Club #6

My book reviews on my blog have only been fiction, up to this point. And i mainly read fiction. It has to be something pretty worth it for me, and to keep me interested. And boy did i find it.

Surviving a Shark Attack (On Land)

Born out of her own highly public encounter with betrayal and its emotional aftermath, Surviving a Shark Attack (On Land): Overcoming Betrayal and Dealing with Revenge is one of Dr. Laura Schlessinger's most personal books. Every single human being on the face of the earth has been betrayed, backstabbed, undermined, screwed over, or had their reputation attacked at least once in their lives," Dr. Laura writes. "It's a horrible experience, leaving you stunned, seared, sad, and very, very angry." When subject to a stealth land shark attack, the first reaction is shock and disbelief. When attempts to shut down the betrayal fail, the typical next response is to strike back. Often, that action only makes things worse. So, what is the source of betrayal and how do you survive it? How do you keep other peoples destructiveness from destroying you?

  •  Why some people are good and some are bad
  •  The motives that drive people to betray their friends and colleagues, including possessiveness, entitlement, competition, defensiveness, greed, jealousy, unhappiness, expedience-and just plain evil
  •  How to know whether you've truly been betrayed, or whether you are at fault for letting it happen
  •  The difference between daydreaming about vengeance (good) and actually seeking revenge (not so good)
  • Adopting a philosophical approach to revenge
  • When to forgive and forget (if ever)
  • Getting on with your life after you've been betrayed 
As she puts it everyone has been hurt by someone in their lives, so what? It’s now in your hands to how to deal with it. To pick you off and walk away, forgive, and maybe do a self evaluation on how i got here in the 1st place. To embrace the people who love and support us and not take them for granted nor neglects them because we are hurting. We all have the control to choose our own emotions and how we react to others. What we cannot control is others. Once i figured that out my life became clearer on what mattered and what didn't. Because to let go of the past and who has hurt you really does lighten your emotion load. Life is too short and you are the only one who feels the weight of holding on. Even if you haven't gone through a betrayal recently i do recommend this book. It makes so much sense to have these tools.

Another reason I loved this book was about every 6th page she has a quote of someone about enemies, betrayal, forgiveness, or truth. I am a sucker for a good quote, as i am sure you have read on this blog over and over (I am sorry). So I will finish this with my favorite quote in the book.

"Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet sweaty things." 
~ George Carlin 

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